Upon completing this course, the student will be able to:

Differentiate between assurance-based and faith-based trust
List the scientific rationale for misplaced trust in a partner
Draw and label the fisting circle of trust with it's four rings
Identify at least one behaviors that invoke or strengthen trust and one behavior that diminishes trust at each ring in the circle of trust

Trust Paradox
Entymology
Assurance
Faith
Theories of Trust
Physiological Components
Endocrine
Oxytocin and Dopamine
Basal
Brain Stem
Evolutionary Psychology
First Learned Emotion
Erickson: Trust vs Mistrust
Tribal Preservation
Maslow: Belonging
Phases/Circle of Trust/Spectrum
External / Cautious Trust
Connection/Community/Culture - Gut (Hardwired/Evolutionary/Tribal)
"Knows Me"
Building
Undermining
First Ring
Manifests Concern
"Supports Me" - Investigates Who I Am / What My Needs Are
Building
Undermining
Second Ring
Demonstrates Competence
"Protects Me" - Follows instructions, demonstrates skills
Building
Undermining
Deep Trust
"Respects Me" - Allows me to be me
Building
Undermining

Blog: Ruminations on Trust

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Facebook WOTD:

Trust

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Assumptins

Confidence

Decker Principle

Oxytocin

Congruence: Say and Do / Man of Your Words

Facebook Skills: Establishing Trust

Facebook Protocols: Practice Honesty

Building Trust

Psychology / Evolution / Triggers - Human Nature (Born Vulnerable): Oxytocin, Eye-Contact, Erikson, Swaddleing (Cuddling), maslows belonging, triggers: Erickson (trust vs mistrust); oxytocin, Physiology - Deep Brain

Undermining Trust

While soft sciences like psychology, anthropology, and sociology can be objective and very scientific in nature, they can often experience geographical, cultural, racial, and economic-class biases and blinders. The observations documented in this course may skew toward Anglo-American, middle-class points of reference.

A quick google search for BASIS OF TRUST yieds dozens of pop-psychology articles composed of C-alliterated lists. The squence of listed items varies based on the article's author and his or her priorities, but most frequent presentation is confidence, consistincy, care, communication, character, credibility, clarity, commitment, and finally culture. Most fisters mention one of the biggest rewards of fisting is the extreme sense of trust that creates an extreme sense of intimacy.

The Trust Paradox

In this section: Entymology | Assurance and Faith

Entymology (Word Origins)

Many fisters claim that level of intimacy expereinced during a session is rarely, if ever, acheived with traditional sexual activities of fucking, sucking, and mutual jerk-off. This fisting intimacy, coupled with the physical stimulation of the fist chute, and the vulnerability of the bottom results in a mind-blowiwng experience that fisters continually seek and replicate for the remainder of their lives. Unfortunately, there isn't a commonly used word to express this connection in English; therefore, fisters attempt to describe it in other methods. The word trust is often utilized as a primary descriptor for the emotions felt during a fisting experience.

In English, there are Latin and Germanic roots to the word. The old Norse words treyesta and traust meant to rely on or to make strong and safe. These two words are the direct source of the modern day verbalization: trust. Even though the cognate source is Norse, Latin also has had influence on the word. Fid is the Latin root for having faith in. Fid appears in common synonymns for trust: confide and confidence. The Norse and Latin backrounds are so intertwined that trust is now represented as a belief in the reliability and capability of someone or something.

VOCABULARY

Trust

Noun A belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
Verb To believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

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The vulnerability of the bottom, coupled with actions of the top, generates an extreme intimacy and sense of trust.

Assurance and Faith

Belief in reliability and capability introduces a paradox which can be understood by examining the three pillars of trust:

Protection | A concern for the physical and emotional well being of a partner.

Reliability | A consistency and accountability for things said and promised including keeping commitments.

Competency | A confirmation of expertise in fisting skills and techniques.

These three pillars have also been referred to as the three Cs: care, consistency, and competence. Not all fisters understand these pillars, and some may have different pillars in their model, including: communication, character, credibility, clarity, commitment, and finally culture. Regardless of the number of pillars in the model, a clear dividing line separates them into two categories: assurity and faith. Assurity represents demonstrable behaviors and while faith incorporates ambiguity due to pre-suppositions and assuptions. To demonstrate the paradox, consider the following.

Know anyone who is great at keeping promises, but you’re never sure if they’re being up front with you? “I trust you” means you can trust their reliability but not their sincerity.
How about someone who takes care of your interests–you always know that they’re doing their best to help you be successful–but half the work they do with you is mediocre? “I trust you” means you can trust their care but not their competence (in at least some areas of work).
How about a person who knows their job cold, cares about your success, and is 100% serious when he makes promises, yet is lousy at follow through? “I trust you” means you can trust their competence, care, and sincerity, but not their reliability.

https://amielhandelsman.com/the-four-things-people-may-mean-when-they-say-i-trust-you/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CI%20trust%20you%E2%80%9D%20means%20you,do%20with%20you%20is%20mediocre%3F Even though the human brain is cognizant of these four meanings, it has difficulty separating them out individually until a breech of trust occurs. This inability often leads to a sense of false security, and introduces the trust paradox.

Confidence

A common synonym for is trust is confidence. Confidence is earned by a demonstrable consistincy and level of skill, or by an undeviating display of character.

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From a sociological and evolutionary aspect, humans are tribal animals. Our tribal nature dictates that we grant rights and privileges to our ingroup that we withhold from outsiders. By this action, we are ensure our own survival by ensuring the survival of our group. In this tribal sense, trust is identified as a matter of faith in committment to survival. It is not an observation of behavior or skill that builds confidence.

As fisters, this evolutionary history plays an interesting role in our sessions. We often express how important trust is with our partners; yet we have little evidence to base this trust on. The trust that manifests is triggered by granting rights to our ingroup. First, we jointly expose our deviance to one another. This starts a feedback loop that manufactures trust as we proceed further into a session. By the end of our session, we are engaged in extremely risky behavior (biologically speaking). As tops, we thrive on the trust the bottom feeds us. As bottoms, we have no doubt that he we will ever perforate us—until he actually does.

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Psychology

Two psychological theories explain the origination and psychological needs related to trust.

Bottoms and Erickson's Model of Human Development

Erik Erikson's theory of psychological development is built upon the foundation of trust. In the first stage of this model, which is called Trust verses Mistrust, an infant learns how to condide and rely on the people and world around him. If trust is developed, the infant progresses through the remainder of the model with ease; whereas if mistrust is pervasive, the individual will experience anxiety throughout the rest of his life when relying upon others.

The classic example for this stage is related to hunger. When a baby experiences hunger, he cries. The cry triggers caregivers to address the need in a timely fashion. If the baby is fed instead of ignored, he develops faith that those who are responsible for him will respond appropriately.

In a fisting session, this request and response translates to the top observing and responding to the needs and wishes of the bottom. If the response is appropriate, the intensity of trust and the related physiological responses increase within the bottom.

Tops and Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs

Abraham Maslow theorized that human decision-making is undergirded by a hierarchy of psychological needs which are catagorized and sorted into a tiered pyramid. The lower tiers of the pyramid retain a deficiency classification. That is to say, developmental progress to the next tier cannont continue until lower needs are met, so individuals make all decisions based on fulfilling these core needs.

According to Maslow's theory, the third tier is belonging. This tier includes the development of intimacy, love, and trust. While Erickson's theory suggests motivation for the bottom, Maslow's theory explains motivation in a fisting relationship for the top.

During a session, behaviors demonstrated by the bottom tend to fulfill belonging needs of the top. Being granted deep trust is his motivation. He understands that his bottom, who is in a vulnerable position, is willingly granting total access—despite the continual risk and extreme danger presented by brachioproctal penetration. This manifestation of trust by the bottom psychologically rewards the top thus fulfilling needs of belonging in Maslow's third tier.

The key to this equation is is the intesity of intimacy through continual trust. In traditional sex, Maslow's third tier is not relevant until longer term relationships are developed--only Maslow's first tier of reproduction is addressed.

Evolutionary Physiology

A common synonym for is trust is confidence. Confidence is earned by a demonstrable consistincy and level of skill, or by an undeviating display of character.