Protocols

Protocols include standard practices and etiquette followed by the majority of the fisting community. Typically, these are things that new fisters pick up over time.

Etiquette

Etiquette refers to how you treat others in a specific fisting scenario.

Standard Practices

Standard Practices refers to common sense behaviors related to fisting activities.

Amenities and Accoutrements

Provisions

When both parties of a fisting session are local, the host should provide most accoutrements and amenities; however, responsibilities may vary based the following items: fisting roles (top or bottom), the distance/time the guest travelled, experience levels of the participants, and finally agreements between regular playmates.

General fisting etiquette dictates:

  • Bottoms provide their own lube, and the tops that only play with gloves provide their own, well-fit gloves. Lube and gloves are examples of role-based responsibilities.
  • Hosts provide a clean play space, touch-up and post-play cleanup facilities, and basic fisting materials. These three things are examples of location-based responsibilities.
  • Regular playmates cost-share the responsiblity for supplies.

The following matrix indicates standards that are followed by most fisters.

Provision Responsibility Matrix
Provision Responsibility Matrix
 

Local Host

w/ Any Guest

Visiting Host

w/ Local Traveler

Visiting Host

w/ Visting Traveler

Local Traveler

w/ Visiting Host

Local Traveler

w/ Local Host

 Top Bottom
Hand Soap        
Gloves [A]          
Poppers [B]    
Salt and/or Dish Soap      
Lube            
Nail Prep Kit            
Paper Towels or Rags    
Pads or Play Sheets    
Shower Facilities        
Douche Bulb/Nozzle            
Clean Linens and Towels    
Table 1.1: Provision Responsibility Matrix

This matrix involves both role-based (top or bottom) and location-based (host or travel) responsibilities. For reference, traveler represents the individual that is not hosting. Visitor indicates individuals that at least 100 kilometers distant from their home. Visitors can be hosts (in their hotel room) or travelers.

  1. The party that requires gloves is the party that provides gloves. Bottoms that require gloves should keep several sizes in stock.
  2. Typically, the individual using the poppers provides the poppers. Exceptions may occur with visitors who are unable to bring poppers on trips due to local travel laws or restrictions.
Legend

  Optional

  Strongly Encouraged

  Conditional

  Appreciated

  Required

Detailed List Explanation

There are multiple conditional designations and a few general exceptions to the responsibilities. Three specific variances include: newbies (novice or virgin fisters), visiting hosts, and actual travel details.

  • Most newbies don't know the provisional responsibilities and are very unaware of the properties of good fisting lube. Many will provide traditional anal/vaginal sex lubes, and if they do provide lipid or polymer-based lubes, they won't have the pads and paper towels that limit messes.
  • Visiting hosts (usually on business trips) may not have access to supplies and are unlikely to modify their hotel showers for douche hoses. They may also have been unable to travel with poppers.
  • Travelers that traverse long distances or stop by after a day's work experience similar issues to visiting hosts. They may not have the ability to tote supplies around all day prior to the session.

Regardless of the three circumstances above, it is best to bring a fully stocked supply bag.