Etiquette
Etiquette refers to how you treat others in a specific fisting scenario. There are three etiquette guidelines related to gloves.
ART AND SCIENCE OF FISTING
Application modality refers to the primary method of application during a session. It usually correlates to the type of fisting associated with the particular session. For example, for depth play, there is often an injection modality where a larger volume of lube is injected into the hole to help lubricate the upper fist chute.
There are two application modalities:
The modality in use dictates the tools and techniques used during lubrication application.
The difference in application modality is based solely upon the initial "landing point" of lube. [ A ] External application refers to the paw or the hole. [ B ] Internal application refers to the lumen (inside) of the fist chute. Attribution Needed.
Protocols include standard practices and etiquette followed by the majority of the fisting community. Typically, these are things that new fisters pick up over time.
Etiquette refers to how you treat others in a specific fisting scenario. There are three etiquette guidelines related to gloves.
Standard Practices refers to common sense behaviors related to fisting activities. There are four standard practices related to gloves.
The following instructional guide(s) will help you:
For sessions without rimming, apply a high-viscosity, oil-based layer of lube (base coat) just after douching and again prior to play. For sessions that will include rimming, apply the base coat prior to inserting the first fist.
With one or two fingers (depending on the responsivity of the hole), slowly push the dollop into the anal canal and make 3-4 semi-lunar passes to coat either the left or right side the hole.
Repeat with a second dollop for the opposite, unlubricated side of the hole.
Repeat steps 3 and 4 several times—going deeper with each repetition—until the anal canal and lower rectum are fully coated.
Whipped Crisco or petrolatum make ideal base coats because they spread with ease—making the process quick and efficient. Solid lubes, such as Crisco, are more difficult to apply.
When using highly viscous lubes during a session, always separate what you expect to use from your source container prior to play. This prevents double-dipping which can contaminate your lube.
If you are the bottom, consider applying your own base coat. Self-application decreases vagal nerve overstimulation as well as unnecessary wear on the hole. Apply with a nitrile glove that is discarded after the base coat is applied. This will keep your hand oil free for the remainder of the session.
If using lubes that are solid at body temperature such as Crisco, melt the lube into a cream by rubbing a dollop together in your hands. See initial applications of solid lubrications.
Remember: firmly, gently, and slowly. Abrupt and jarring movements are undesirable and can cause the hole to close up rather than open.
Although this procedure can be used with lower viscosity silicone and glycerine-based lubes, it is more economical to use alphabet (PEO-based) lubes.
Squeeze or pour another 25 ml (~2 tablespoons) of lube onto your dry hand and haphazardly disperse it to fully coat the skin on both hands with lube.
Apply another 25 ml (~2 tablespoons) to the crevice and work it into the hole with one, two, or more fingers based on the responsiveness of the hole.
Repeat as needed until you pop the fist into the hole.
A cat and a hole are similar: both like to be petted gently, and jarring movements spook them. Slow gentle movements can spread lube evenly across the hole and the hand/arm.
Applying lube to your hand as if you were swirling hot fudge on a scoop of ice cream demonstrates high lube competency and ensures the hole and hand are fully coated.
This application method has been nicknamed "petting the pussy" because the motions and intensity of touch is similar to that of petting a cat. Excessive pressure and rapid, stumbling motion are jarring to both a pussy (cat) and a pussy (hole). Soft, gentle strokes will demonstrate lube competency and put the bottom at ease.
Assess the hole for openness:
Open holes are responsive to the touch—allowing multiple fingers to enter without resistance.
When using highly viscous lubes during a session, always separate what you expect to use from your source container prior to play. This prevents double-dipping which can contaminate your lube.
Place a large dollop (30 mL | 2 tablespoons) of solid lube into the palm of your hand. Rub your hands together until the lube melts into a cream.
Use this cream to thoroughly coat both hands entirely as if the lube were hand-lotion.
A separate lube bowl will prevent contaminating your source lube with fecal bacteria from the hole.
Lubes that are solid at body temperature (37˚ C | 98.6˚ F) are challenging if a hole hasn't had any type of warm-up. Try a toy or prick with traditional lubes to relax the first ring prior to the application of your solid lube.
Frozen lubes can physically damage the hole if not applied correctly. See Administer Lube Cubes for instruction on inserting frozen lubes into the fist chute.
When using highly viscous lubes during a session, always separate what you expect to use from your source container prior to play. This prevents double-dipping which can contaminate your lube.
Place a large dollop (30 mL | 2 tablespoons) of solid lube into the index and middle fingers of your dominant hand.
Spread the cheeks apart with the thumb and index finger of your dominant hand.
Press the lube into the exposed, stretched hole with the dominant hand.
Use the non-dominant hand to catch and insert remnants.
Repeat steps 2 and 3 to add a second dollop into the hole.
Early in a session, adding solid lube can be tricky and require several minutes of clump chasing.
Lubes that are solid at body temperature (37˚ C | 98.6˚ F) are challenging if a hole hasn't had any type of warm-up. Try a toy or prick with traditional lubes to relax the first ring prior to the application of your solid lube.
Frozen lubes can physically damage the hole if not applied correctly. See Administer Lube Cubes for instruction on inserting frozen lubes into the fist chute.
When using highly viscous lubes during a session, always separate what you expect to use from your source container prior to play. This prevents double-dipping which can contaminate your lube.
Determine the gape capability of your partner.
Complete the remaining steps only if your partner has a partial gape.
Once sufficient air has been pumped into your partner (and a gape begins to appear alongside your partially inserted hand), insert your hand two thirds of the way into your partner's hole.
Turn your partially collapsed palm up to create a runoff valley.
Holes that naturally gape make funneling lube easy. Natural gapes may occur because of positioning or by sucking air into the rectum.
Pumping air into a hole to allow for a gape or partial gape can result in air trapped deep within the upper fist chute. Yoga and specific expulsion techniques can release this gas after a session is over.
If your partner cannot gape or partially gape, revert to either external application modalities or internal injection modalities.
If your partner has a natural full gape, funneling lube is unnecessary. Instead, squeeze or pour lube directly into the gape.
Dip the penetrative hand completely into the basin until both sides of the hand are fully coated with lube.
Scoop a handful of lube into your cupped hand.
Use the front, back, and sides of your hand to spread lube around the hole (including the entire fisting margin), then gradually insert fingers based on openness.
Repeat steps as needed to apply additional lube from the basin.
A strategically placed lube basin placed below the bottom can eliminate the use of lube bottles for application.
Start with a small volume of lube in your vat or catch basin. After you determine there is no need for touch-ups, add more lube to the basin.
Identify the hand used for penetration.
Align the forearm and the duckbilled, collapsed paw at a 90˚ to 100˚ angle with the floor.
Using the non-penetrative hand, grab the squeeze bidon and apply lube to the penetrative hand using a circular motion.
Encircle the hand multiple times starting at the fingertips and going to the base of the hand.
Pour approximately 50 mL (3 tablespoons) just above the hole so that it drips down to coat the orifice and verge.
Glide the lubricated along the ass crack, distributing the lube on the hand and the lube on the hole evenly.
Rotate and alter your hand position (palm-to-side, side-to-back, back-to-side) gently along the ass crack until the fisting margin is fully coated with lube.
Apply another dollop to both the hand and the hole, then insert fingers one-by-one, reapplying lube as necessary.
A dry hand can be used to caress specific body parts, such as the chest, thigh, or jaw, to release endorphins and oxytocin.
This dispersion of lube on the exterior surfaces of the ass has been nicknamed "petting the pussy" because the motions and intensity of touch is similar to that of petting a cat. Excessive pressure and rapid, stumbling motion are jarring to both a pussy (cat) and a pussy (hole). Soft, gentle strokes will demonstrate lube competency and put the bottom at ease.
Single hand application typically requires a flexible squeeze bottle with a moderately viscous lubrication. While solid lubes can be applied with a single hand, obtaining full coverage is tedious and difficult. Likewise, low viscosity lubes are also difficult unless a vat or basin is used.
Assess the depth experience of the bottom:
Assess the patency of the hole:
Select injection tool based on assessments:
Fill the injection tool with the lube of the appropriate viscosity:
Tools with defined or rough edges (such as high-volume syringes) should only be used on large gape holes.
Tools with very small diameters (such as pvc tubing) pose very high risk of perforation and should be used with extreme caution.
Long tubing and douche bulbs function better with lower viscosity (runnier) lubes.
It is not essential to expel air from distribution tools; however, in deep insertions, expelling air into the sigmoid may result in extended discomfort.
This procedure works best with moderate and advanced holes that demonstrate at least one of these characteristics:
Adjust the position of the bottom so that gravity will assist in drawing lube upward (into the gut) rather than downward (onto the floor).
To prevent lube from exiting rather than remaining within the fist chute, the bottom can assume various application positions. Lube that pools near the second hole triggers specific physiological responses that assist in depth gains.
Rapidly administer a large volume of lube (at least 125 ml [1/2 cup]).
Depending on the size and firmness of your injection tool, lube may be administered with the hand/fist inside or outside of the hole.
Soft injection tools, like a collapsible calf feeder, can rapidly deliver large volumes of lube.
Rapid delivery of lube that pools at the second hole or just beyond the second hole triggers a natural reflex that draws fluid upward into the gut. If the second hole is relaxed enough through massage and poppers, further depth into the upper fist chute is often obtainable.
Avoid stems longer than 10 cm (4 inches) top prevent accidental perforations.
With collapsable, short injection tools, the hand can be inserted first, and the injector can be inserted alongside it to prevent lube loss from inserting or extracting a hand.
Insert the tool into the chute and feed it approximately 20 to 30 cm [8 to 12 inches] deep.
If necessary, the hand can be inserted after the tool's insertion to verify it has passed through the second hole and entered the upper fist chute. Remove the hand prior to lube injection.
Deep insertion of narrow-diameter tubing or stems introduces a high perforation risk:
Consult with enema supply vendors regarding appropriate injection tools.
Deep injection comes with elevated risk. Soft tools minimize the chance of perforations. Firm tubing should never be used.
The upper fist chute has a higher probability of perforation by firm foreign objects due to decreased thickness of the colon walls.
Colon snakes with bore holes can also be used for deep lube injections. Elongated douche nozzles are also an option if they can be connected to the source reservoir.
Any type of tubing is likely to introduce air into to fist chute. A bottom should be familiar with air removal procedures after fisting to prevent discomfort.
Using the physiological reflex that naturally draws lube into the upper fist chute is a safer alternative than delivering lube via tube, colon snake, or douche nozzle. See Trigger the Second Hole for Depth Advances for further instruction.
Lube is lost when a top spends unnecessary time attempting penetration. The route of least resistance can be communicated by comparing entrance angles to positions on a clock.
Keyhole
Some amount of lube, especially using the pooling method, is likely to escape. Using a lube basin or drip pan will collect the lube for re-use within the session.
Lube Cube
Frost bite, most commonly seen with fingers and toes, can occur within minutes within the fist chute. Allow lube cubes to melt prior to insertion of additional cubes.
Crisco and many shortenings do not melt at body temperature. A frozen Crisco ball will warm up to 37˚ C (98.6˚ F) but will not melt further unless manipulated by mechanical energy.
Frozen lube can damage the mucosal tissue of the rectum without the bottom being aware of damage occurring. The nerves of the rectum can sense cold but cannot feel pain like the nerves of the skin can. Be careful to avoid burning the tissue of the hole by manipulating the cubes often after they are inserted into the hole.
While application of lube is very personalized, implementing several best practices can extend play time, decrease wear and tear on the hole, and increase the intensity of play.
Implementing good technique while applying lube puts the bottom at ease. This allows for deeper connection and greater intensity while playing. Novice tops, non-intuitive tops, and disengaged tops are easily spotted by their sub-standard lube application techniques.
Base Coat
Applying a hydrophobic base coat to the anal canal and lower rectum decreases discomfort as well as damage to the most vulnerable mucosal tissue.
Not all hydrophobic lubes provide the same level of protection. Solid petroleum distillates, such as petrolatum (Vaseline), or shortening (Crisco) have greater protective benefits than liquid oils and silicone.
A small dollop applied just before penetration by either the top or by the bottom ensures there is little interference with rimming.
The base coat doesn't have to be applied by the top. In fact, the bottom can apply this coat with his index finger. Self-application is less likely to trigger vagal nerve response that causes the hole to cinch down and close.
If you are averse to getting lipids or petroleum distillates on your hands for the purpose of base coating, use a glove for the application of these lubes. Remove the glove when you switch to your less viscous lube (FFäusten, for example).
While you can add lube at any time, major reapplications that involve withdrawing the fist from the fist chute are best done with some coordination between partners.
For example, it is infuriating to a bottom to take a hit of poppers only for its effects to dissipate while a top takes his time to reapply lube. A better outcome occurs when the top applies lube just as the bottom reaches for the popper bottle—not after he inhales. It is helpful to prompt the bottom to hold off on inhalation until your hand is recoated and additional lube is added to the orifice (the outside) of the hole.
As a reminder, not all popper hits require lube reapplication; however, most short breaks almost always require reapplication of lube.
Insert or reapply lube prior to a popper hit to avoid wasting the relaxation effects of the nitrites.
Due to human physiology and physics, PEO and PG lubes dry out. Rehydration is done through reapplication of more lube, by misting via a spray bottle, or by adding water via a secondary bidon. Use of a secondary bidon (to add water or a large volume of lube) can be either helpful or problematic due to the nature of the human body.
Using a spray bottle to mist the arm, hole, and fisting margin can decrease drag and discomfort.
There are multiple physiologic sphincters in the upper fist chute. These sphincters are not true sphincters (like the first hole); rather, they work to prevent leakage by pulling water further back into the colon. When fluid hits these pseudo-sphincters, reverse peristalsis carries the fluid up the intestine for absorption. Inserting excess lube or water can therefore result in a few unexpected outcomes:
Use caution in introducing excessive amounts of water (or lube) to the fist chute of your partner until you know how his body reacts to that type of rehydration.
Instinctively following good hygiene practices demonstrates advanced fisting skills:
During play, there are a few strategies you can use to decrease exposure to micro-organisms. First, if you have prepared a large batch of lube, store your extra bottles away from the play area. If you run out of lube in your current bottle, you can fetch the spare from the kitchen or storage refrigerator. Second, wrap your lube in a paper towel, so that your dirty hands are not in direct contact with the lube container. And finally, avoid touching the lube container to the hole.
For cream lubes like Elbow Grease, Slam Dunk, and Crisco, do not double dip. Before your session starts, prepare a small cup or Tupperware container with the amount of lube you need so that you are not sticking a dirty paw into a full container of untainted lube.
Like preparation, these mitigation practices are limited in effectiveness. Lube tends to get everywhere during a session, and containers are easily contaminated.
Wrapping your lube dispenser with paper towels or socks keeps tainted lube from contacting non-tainted lube. This strategy isn't foolproof but may reduce the number of bacteria exposed to your lube during play.
Always seek consent before spreading lube beyond the perineum area. Common reasons for additional consent include:
Double decker involves a single top switching paws between two stacked bottoms. Cross contamination is usually inevitable.
Most disinformation related to lubrication application is due to ignorance.
These myths typically arise from assumptions that feel intuitively correct, yet fail to account for the complexities of physiology, depth play, or the unique characteristics and qualities of individual holes. Some misconceptions can lead to risky behaviors or counterproductive outcomes.
Injecting lube into the upper fist chute is the secret to faster development of depth capabilities.
Injecting large volumes of lube will make depth gains quicker.
There are no shortcuts for gaining depth. Excessive lube and deep lube injection are not replacements for regular conditioning. Sustained depth gains, especially those that occur near or beyond the elbow, require a lot of play over a long period of time (typically years).
Injecting lube into the upper fist chute gives false courage.
Focus on regular and consistent play with a moderate amount of drag-eliminating lube rather than deep injections as a shortcut. Focus on regular massage of the second hole to trigger relaxation rather than excessive lube as its trigger. For additional information, see:
I won't perforate if I use a lot of lube.
Perforations can happen at any time. While a well lubricated hole decreases perforation risk, it can provide false courage and encourage pressing limits—especially in inexperienced depth players.
Do not use lube as a safeguard for perforation. Always discuss your hole's abilities with your top before play to prevent unnecessary risk taking. For additional information, see:
Additives, such as numbing agents, are beneficial.
Using my lube and its special additives on my partner will definitely open him up better!
While numbing agents may extend play, they can also mask damage and cause health issues. Certain additives, like Voltaren cream, can cause kidney damage.
Additionally, numbing additives prevent natural pain mechanisms from warning you of injury.
When a bottom's hole isn't familiar with special additives like clove, lavender, or numbing creams, exposure to these agents can cause the hole to induce expulsion reflexes or even close up completely.
Familiarize yourself with overdose symptoms for lidocaine. Avoid the use of acetaminophen containing additives (such as Voltaren). Study the potential health consequences of any lubrication additive.
Recognize that unfamiliar lube can shut down a hole rather than open it, so plan "lube experimentation" strategically. Avoid new lubes at events and parties to ensure you can bottom for the duration of the event.
For moderate and advanced fisters, using a familiar lube with the right viscosity, lubricity, and consistency enables them to focus on relaxation instead of new sensations triggered by lube. For additional information, see:
He's already got enough lube inside him, so I will hold back when he asks for more!
Novice, inexperienced, and over-confident tops are prone to making lube assessments for the bottom. There may be ten gallons of lube in the hole, but if the bottom says there isn't enough, re-apply. A request typically indicates the bottom is experiencing discomfort. Further investigation is needed after applying fresh lube.
Often, a request for additional lube from a bottom indicates a deficiency in technique by the top. For additional information, see:
Several seasoned fisters offer following tips and counsel regarding lubrication application:
Layering different types of lubes is an effective strategy to increase slippage, reduce friction irritation, and extend the length of play. A base coat of Crisco or Elbow Grease fully saturated into the lining of a hole and the skin of an arm is a good way to start before adding a thick alphabet lube. The extra slippage between the layers of lube decreases wear and tear on the hole. The thicker the lube is mixed, the longer the separation between layers is maintained.
Eventually the lube will all mix together, but the effect can be re-created by adding more Elbow Grease as the lube thickens and the hole absorbs water, coating the hole again before switching back to an alphabet lube. This type of thing isn’t necessary for shorter sessions of around 20 minutes but can be very helpful for sessions of 2-3 hours with minimal breaks needed.
At the parties I host, I provide a couple gallon tubs of Crisco, an ice cream scoop, and bowls. A few years ago, I switched from 12 oz bowls to 6 oz (and compostable!) ones because I noticed the amount of wasted Crisco. Guys would mound the lube in the bowl and only go through 1/3 of it. Half-sized bowl equals 2/3 less waste and cuts the party costs as well.
When I first hit puberty and found gay porn, it was long before the digital age. I needed lube to masturbate but wanted to keep my magazines dry so that they would last longer. I learned how to bate with a lubed left hand, while keeping my right hand dry to flip the pages of my magazines.
I eventually imported this practice into fisting. By developing and learning a technique to saturate my hand and even my arm using his well lubricated ass crack, I'm able to keep my right hand free to administer more lube, fast forward the porn playing on my TV, and most importantly, touch my bottom's body and face without getting him sticky and coated in lube.
You'll need to practice but start by coating his crack with an abundance of lube. Always apply the lube above his hole, so that gravity will pull it down and over his asslips. Use your lube hand to catch the dripping and oozing lube and gently flip it from palm to the back of the hand. Make the touch soft and erotic. By the time your hand is fully coated, the bottom will know his hole is sufficiently lubed for immediate (or near-immediate) penetration.
Over time, I've learned that guys who set hole goals for depth will experiment with a lot of different things to gain that depth, including various objects to deliver lube deeper into the fist chute.
Injecting lube deeper is not the secret, nor the shortcut, to deeper fisting. Perforation can easily occur when firm, narrow objects are inserted into the hole, especially if the hole is already taut (due to exhaustion or other objects sharing the space concurrently with a fist or toy). I spent six months and $80,000 learning this lesson.
Only use flexible materials for lube delivery—small circumference tubes that are firm can easily perforate the colon. To illustrate my point, I have a guy picture stepping on a wine cork, a Q-tip, and a nail. The firm nail breaks through the skin. The Q-tip, which is less firm, bends before it has a chance to perforate the skin. The wine cork is so fat that it would take an extreme amount of force for it to penetrate anything.
If a bottom feels it is necessary to lubricate the upper fist chute to obtain more depth, I suggest flexible silicone drinking straws that can attach to a syringe. They have a wider circumference and bend with minimal pressure.
Course Appendix
The following material may guide the development and deployment of this topic:
Upon completing this course, the student will be able to:
Note: Objectives should follow instructional design standards and be easily measurable with little ambiguity.
These individuals have indicated they continue fisting with this condition: